Dear Betsy,
Love the idea of Parenting for Peace. What a gift it would be for parents to truly know we are hard wired for peace. That our natural state of being is peace, love and wisdom. If parents could only understand how to translate wisdom into rapport with their children, everyone would have a better experience of being family.
I have The Three P's for living from the inside out - Mind - Consciousness - Thought. When parents and even children understand these 3 powerful principles caring, compassion, conflict resolution, respect, kindness and service occurs beautifully.
I started talking about the Principles to my girls when they were 3 years old, we just called them the Sun for Wisdom and Clouds for grumpies and they understand the difference - How beautiful is that? Now I'm teaching kids in grade 5 and WOW they are getting it.
You’re right to say as parents we need to step up to the plate and recognize our role in the climate we create for our children to live in. Once parents recognize their own resilience to live from a healthier place more of the time - it becomes a priceless gift they would be given themselves and the children that surround them.
Quinn Cashion-Vosburgh
Vancouver, BC
Dear Betsy,
I work in a childcare centre where some of the kids are left for 10 hours a day. They spend more time with us than their parents so our role in their development is huge. Providing a sense of security is the most difficult thing because they have been left by their parents and many don't like that. It can be really sad. I am the cook there so I make them great meals with love and they know that is what I am doing, some of them cheer and their faces light up when they see me. I think this is because I treat them with as much respect as I would an adult and they appreciate that.
I don’t tell them what to do, rather I give them a choice and reasons for deciding either way and let them pick. They always choose what I would have told to do them anyway.
I am taking a copy of the excerpt to work to see what my colleagues think.
Rochelle
Hi Betsy,
Thanks for all the great info you've been putting out. I was a bit surprised to see your focus on "being concerned with the world." First because it posits the primary focus as outer rather than inner, second and more importantly, because consciousness will flow to manifest what we focus on. To focus on "changing the world for the better" shows a conviction that "something is wrong with the world." While you would *like* the world to be peaceful, your belief, conviction and the energy you are putting out is that "the world isn't peaceful" and that's what consciousness will move to reflect more of in the physical that you perceive.
Here's a nice summation of this written by Gregg Braden:
“From the perspective of us participating in an ever-changing universe, the solution to any condition is a change in attitude and belief. And this is the great secret of propelling our heart's desires from the possibility of imagination, to the reality of our everyday lives. The key is our ability to feel as if our dreams have already come to life, our prayers already answered, and live from that feeling. There is a subtle, and yet powerful difference between working toward a result, and feeling from that result. When we work toward something, we embark upon an open-ended and never-ending journey. While we may identify milestones, and set goals to get us closer to our accomplishment, in our mind we are always "on our way" to the goal, rather than in the experience of accomplishing our goal.
In the ancient studies of martial arts, we see a beautiful metaphor in the physical world for precisely the way this principle works in consciousness. When martial artists choose to break a concrete block as a demonstration of focus, for example, the very last thing in their minds is the place where their hand will touch that block. The key is to place our focus upon the completed act: the healing already accomplished, or the brick already broken. As a student of the martial arts, I was taught to do this by focusing on a point in space that is beyond the bottom of the block. The only way that my hand could be at that point was if it had already passed through the brick. In this way, I was thinking from the completion, rather than how hard it would be to get to the completion. I was feeling the joy of what it feels like to accomplish the act, rather than all of the things that must happen before I could be successful. This simple example offers a powerful analogy for precisely the way that consciousness seems to work. And this is the great secret that has been protected and preserved for us in wisdom of our past.”
Cheers,
Riessen Kinghorne
Hi Betsy,
I am a 67 years young spirit with 5 wonderful children from 13 to 47, 7 wonderful grand- children, a little architect/real estate developer/energy healer/reflexologist/student of Master Sha thrown in, male with much study and experience in the spiritual world, and some practical stuff, too. I'm an Anglo-Saxon white USA citizen from birth. And I'm simple a man who also wants world peace.
There is a wonderful book called "Real Love" by Dr. Greg Baer, that puts the whole thing is perspective. I recommend reading it. His website is reallove.com. Buy the book there, or Amazon.com.
To paraphrase the book, I and most of the human race, suffer from a lack of unconditional love, beginning at birth and going forward. Unconditional love is defined as caring about another person without expecting/needing anything in return. Agape love!
When we are filled with unconditional love, we feel great, like having $20 million in the bank, and then we don't do things to get love or feel better. We are free to focus on giving love, and guess what, the world gives love back! I think that was a "possibility" in a movie I saw, called "What the Bleep......!"
Most of us are drowning (figuratively), and trading conditional love/imitation love to make up for not feeling great inside. It all started with, "be good Johnny and I will praise and love you, but inconvenience me, walk across the carpet with mud on your feet, and I'll be mad, and that translate into "I don't love you" to a child. So we learn how to trade. We go for power, praise, pleasure and safety as substitutes for feeling really loved. Nothing is wrong with these, but if they are a substitute for real love, they don't last, and so you need another fix or you choose to be a victim and numb out with alcohol or drugs like so much of America is doing. Probably the riches country on earth, and we use 75% of all the drugs! Something is going on!
The bottom line is: there are so many people who don't feel really loved, they do all kinds of crazy thing to feel power/praise/pleasure/safe. That is what is going on in this world: war, murder, cheating in relationships, business, government, etc., spinning the truth, being mad, being a victim, not taking responsibility for my own happiness, letting people starve to death, you name it! It's all comes down to empty and afraid inside.
So if we want a better world for us, our kids, and our kid's kids, understanding the problem and then creating more "real love" is the answer! It's possible! I'm doing it, the best I can! Read the book then put it into practice! Make a movie!
Blessings and belly laughs,
Gerry Venable
